The Untitled 9.11.17
Tue, September 12, 2017 at 10:29 PMJasmine Gonzalez
Jasmine Gonzalez

July 8th 2000

September 11th 2001

November 23rd 2003

April 24th 2006

July 8th 2010

May 20th 2012

March 9th 2013

July 20th 2017

To some, the most significant date listed is September 11th 2001, and the other dates are meaningless. To me, each date listed is important.

July 8th 2000, is when me and my hubby first got together.

November 23rd is when we got engaged

April 24th is our son's birthday

July 8th is our wedding day

May 20th is when my aunt passed from stage 4 ovarian cancer

10 months later, on March 9th, 2013 her mother, my grandmother passed away.

July 20th, 2017 was the day my favorite singer passed away.

For each of these dates, I remember an emotion. Four of the dates, were of pure love, joy and happiness. The last four, were heartbreaking, full of pain and hurt. But for each occasion, I learned a little bit about myself.

I learned that for every piece of happiness, comes a moment of pain and heartache. But what is love is there is no heartache? What is pleasure if there is no pain? Each thing has a positive and a negative.

I learned that each time I feel pain, it makes me stronger, it makes me more empathic towards others. Compassion, love, is what everyone needs in life, but pain, heartache is also a part of our lives as well. I learned that people can be all smiles on the outside, but be hurting deeply on the inside.  They want others to be happy because they know what it's like to be sad.  These people are not weak.

They are probably the strongest people I know. Do not stigmatize people because you lack empathy.  Show compassion towards them, you might learn something about them and most importantly, learn something about yourself